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As a business coach, I dip into my formal academic education (BBA, MBA), my real-world business experience, and my continued education in Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) from the Association of Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), a non-hierarchical framework for value-based decision-making.
As a fellow trauma survivor, I'm on my own journey of processing, healing, and education. When we're not meeting for a session, it's a pretty good bet that I'm either meeting with one of my own team of coaches, mental health professionals, or mentors or reading, researching, and taking a class on some badass subject that helps you do you more confidently and easily.
Coaching sessions with me also incorporate adaptations from my previous career's pedagogical training and education as a Suzuki cello teacher. The Suzuki philosophy emphasizes experiential holistic learning by enhancing strengths, not eliminating weaknesses.
Other philosophies that my coaching clients are the recipients of are...
- You're in the driver's seat—As a trauma-informed coach, my process is client-directed and client-centered. You're the only one with access to your unique resources: economic, relational, emotional, practical, etc. You are the only one who knows your capacity for growth and tolerance for the discomfort that comes along with it. My job as your coach is to help you find the perfect tools to enhance, empower, and enrich all of that.
- You choose where I sit—I can coach from wherever you'd like, metaphorically this could be the sidelines, shotgun, back seat, nosebleed section, etc. I don't do "my way or the highway" and I am not your guru. Of course, I'm honored to cheer, advise, guide, warn, and ease with solutions. Together, we'll brainstorm endless creative ideas... But at the end of the day, I'm not the one in the driver's seat, you are.
- You've got the steering wheel—coaching sessions are for discussing whatever area of life, career, or business you'd prefer. I'll let you know if I think a topic might be better suited for another professional, so no worries there. As we continue to meet, we can change topical directions, avoid certain areas, re-address your initial goals or modify them as needed. Just say the word and I'll be on board with it.
- You've got the gas & brake pedals—we can go as slow or as fast as you'd like. Prefer lots of homework or zero homework? Cool. Want to meet more often? As long as I've got the space in my calendar, that time can be yours. In every session, my hope is that you'll grow beyond the just-getting-by patterns of coping. It is possible to find business solutions for thriving as a entrepreneur and trauma survivor that are creative, reliable, and sustainable. We can accomplish this at any speed.
- U-turns are encouraged—questions, hesitations, second-guessing, fixing mistakes and changing your mind is a natural part of our evolution as humans. I'm cool with it. For instance, an idea mentioned in a session might need to get tweaked a bit before it really feels awesome. At times, it might feel a little bit like trying on shoes or throwing spaghetti against the walls. Whatever doesn't stick or feel quite right can absolutely be discarded or replaced with a comfier version or new attempt!
- There is an eject button—If you decide to pause our work together and want recommendations for another coach, just let me know. I would be a fool to think that a coaching relationship is permanent or obligatory. Besides, I love giving recommendations to my favorite colleagues.
- Different is good! Different is fun! I have ADHD and was diagnosed late-in-life. I spent decades unknowingly riding the neurodivergent "struggle bus" but the silver lining is that I now have a massive muscle which continues to give me and my clients countless methods of adapting to a world that at times feels triggering, alien, and scary. My approach to coaching is experimental, progressive, efficient, light-hearted, and fun!
Our work together is founded upon a defiant expectation that practicing bravery *can* feel easy for you. So I'll want to spend our time together discovering the methods, tools, routines, and habits that do just that. My goal is to make your practice of personal bravery feel as easy as possible for you.
Who is a good fit to work with you?
Who can schedule a coaching session?
Coaching appointments are offered to the general public and enrolled students of The School of Bravery through three methods, listed here.
What's a typical coaching session like?
Every coaching session will look a little different depending on your needs. That said, here's a general outline of how a coaching session typically is structured:
- 5-10 min: We start with smiles, chit-chat, and any catching up of life that needs to happen for that week/month.
- 10 min: Then I'll ask something like "Where would you like to go today?" or "What's on your list of priorities for today's session?"
- Using that answer in combination with your initial and overall client goals, we'll dive into the session together!
- 5-10 min: When our time is up, you'll have tangible action items to implement before our next appointment.
What topics can I bring to a coaching session?
You can bring almost anything to your session with me! I love the "out of left-field" topics, so please feel free to bring whatever feels like it needs attention.
If I can't offer support in an area (i.e. therapeutic, medical, or legal advice) I'll let you know this ASAP. In most cases, I'll have a referral to another colleague who can!
Students/clients often bring problems that pop up in their business, relationships, life, or career. This could be anything from writing or self-publishing to the strategy, product launches, marketing, operations, or automation of your business. I also love helping with creating systems that support your holistic needs and pursuits.
What is Religious Trauma?
The North American Committee on Religious Trauma Research (NACRTR) provides their official definition as:
"Religious trauma results from an event, series of events, relationships, or circumstances within or connected to religious beliefs, practices, or structures that is experienced by an individual as overwhelming or disruptive and has lasting adverse effects on a person’s physical, mental, social, emotional, or spiritual well-being."
Nope! I am anti-oppression and anti-coercion.
I believe it's possible to find a healthy, safe, non-toxic, non-abusive spiritual community experience, if that's what you're seeking. The School of Bravery community represents a wide range of religious experiences and practice of spiritual beliefs. However...
The School of Bravery is 100% against the following:
- authoritarian groups & toxic leadership
- coercive control & undue influence
- manipulative marketing & indoctrination
- financial & emotional exploitation
- fundamental extremism of all kinds
Trauma hurts everyone.
The lasting effects of trauma from any of ^those^ are tragic and long-term, often permanent. All trauma is extremely costly, and not just those involved in the trauma. Trauma is costly, for everyone. The CDC reports that childhood trauma alone has an economic and social cost to families, communities, and society that totals hundreds of billions of dollars each year.
So, no we are not anti-religion. We are anti-oppression.
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