What's your philosophy & approach to coaching?
As a business coach, I dip into my formal academic education (BBA, MBA), my real-world business experience, and my continued education in Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) from the Association of Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), a non-hierarchical framework for value-based decision-making.
Sessions with me also incorporate adaptations from my previous career's pedagogical training and education as a Suzuki cello teacher. The Suzuki philosophy emphasizes experiential holistic learning by enhancing strengths, not eliminating weaknesses. Other philosophies you'll experience as a client of mine are...
- You are the expert in your business. I am not your guru. I don't do "my way or the highway." You're the only one with access to your unique resources: economic, relational, emotional, practical, etc. Of course, I'm honored to advise, guide, warn, and ease with solutions. Together, we'll brainstorm endless creative ideas... But at the end of the day, you (not me) are the one practicing bravery. My job as your coach is to help you find the perfect tools to enhance, empower, and enrich all of that. Your coaching session is not about me, it's about you.
- You've got the gas pedal. As a trauma-informed coach, my process is client-directed and client-centered. You are the only one who knows your capacity for growth and tolerance for the discomfort that comes along with it. In every session, my goal is to help you find what you need (in that moment) to grow beyond your trauma's just-getting-by patterns of coping. It is possible to find business solutions for thriving as a entrepreneur and trauma survivor that are creative, reliable, and sustainable.
- We're all still growing. As a fellow trauma survivor, I'm on my own journey of processing, healing, and education. When we're not meeting for a session, it's a pretty good bet that I'm either meeting with one of my own team of coaches, mental health professionals, or mentors or reading, researching, and taking a class on some badass subject that helps you do you more confidently and easily.
- We've got skills, they're multiplying. When we're working together, I dip into my formal academic education (BBA, MBA), my real-world experience, and my continued education in Acceptance & Commitment Therapy from the Association of Contextual Behavioral Science, a non-hierarchical framework for value-based decision-making. Sessions with me also incorporate adaptations from my previous career's pedagogical training and education as a Suzuki cello teacher. Among many things, the Suzuki music education philosophy emphasizes experiential holistic learning by enhancing strengths, not eliminating weaknesses.
- Different is good! I have ADHD and was diagnosed late-in-life. I spent decades unknowingly on the neurodivergent "struggle bus" while I was undiagnosed. That time built a massive muscle which continues to give me and my clients countless methods of adapting to a world that at times feels triggering, alien, and scary. My approach to coaching is experimental, progressive, efficient, light-hearted, and fun!
- What works for someone else might not work for you. An idea mentioned in a session might need to get tweaked a bit before it really fits like a glove. Our sessions together involve the same kind of experimentation that you'll need to practice your bravery. It'll be a little bit like trying on shoes to see if they fit, or throwing spaghetti against the wall to see if it sticks. Whatever doesn't stick or feel quite right can absolutely be discarded or replaced with something comfier!
Our work together is founded upon a defiant expectation that practicing bravery *can* feel easy for you. So I'll want to spend our time together discovering the methods, tools, routines, and habits that do just that. My goal is to make your practice of personal bravery feel as easy as possible for you.
Who is a good fit to work with you?
I work best with business owners who suffer from the lasting effects from Adverse Religious Experiences (AREs)—often referred to as RTS or Religious Trauma Syndrome. You're probably a good fit to work with me if you own a business and one or more of the following are true...
- you are a survivor of abuse and/or undue influence
- you are a former member of a spiritual community (like Mormon/LDS, Jehovah Witness, Scientology, Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism, new age, or other cults)
- you call yourself an Exvangelical, Ex-Mormon, Post-Mormon, ex-missionary,
- others label you as a "suppressive person", SP, heathen, disfellowshipped, excommunicated, shunned, sinner, etc.
- you are actively deconstructing your faith (hopefully alongside a licensed therapist)
I might be the coach for you if you own a business and you consider yourself to be one or more of the following...
- questioning member of a spiritual community (LDS, Jehovah Witnesses, Scientology, Christianity, Judaism, Islam, new age, cult, etc.)
- a pastor's kid (PK) or missionary kid (MK) or grew up homeschooled
- survivor of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
- survivor of Adverse Organizational Experiences (AOEs)
- former multi-level marketer or ex-member of an MLM
- something else on this page resonates with you.
I'm not the coach for you if you are...
- currently profiting from or hoping to benefit from (financially or otherwise) the direct promotion of a religion, cult, or multi-level marketing company.
- a business owner that promotes racist, homophobic, xenophobic, or culturally appropriative business practices.
That said... I would love to talk to you if you've already left or are seeking a business solution to sustainably exit an adverse organizational experience or transfer your financial dependence away from a spiritual community. Please mention this in your Bravery Boost session.
What's a coaching session like?
Every bravery coaching session with me will look a little different depending on your needs. That said, here's a general outline of how a bravery coaching session typically is structured:
- 5-10 min: We start with smiles, chit-chat, and any catching up of life that needs to happen for that week/month.
- 10 min: Then I'll ask something like "Where would you like to go today?" or "What's on your list of priorities for today's session?"
- Using that answer in combination with your initial and overall client goals, we'll dive into the session together!
- 5-10 min: When our time is up, you'll have tangible action items to implement before our next appointment.
What topics can I bring to a coaching session?
You can bring almost anything to your session with me! I love the "out of left-field" topics, so please feel free to bring whatever feels like it needs attention. If I can't offer support in that area (i.e. therapeutic, medical, or legal advice) I'll let you know and in most cases I'll have a referral to another colleague who can!
Students frequently bring problems that pop up in their business, relationships, life, or career. This could be anything from writing or self-publishing to the strategy, product launches, marketing, operations, or automation of your business. I also love helping with creating systems that support your holistic needs and pursuits.
Whatever your issue or trouble spot, bring it! We'll have a good time finding an easy solution for it!
What is Religious Trauma?
The North American Committee on Religious Trauma Research (NACRTR) provides their official definition as:
"Religious trauma results from an event, series of events, relationships, or circumstances within or connected to religious beliefs, practices, or structures that is experienced by an individual as overwhelming or disruptive and has lasting adverse effects on a person’s physical, mental, social, emotional, or spiritual well-being."
Are you anti-religion?
Nope! I am anti-oppression.
I absolutely believe it's possible to find a healthy, safe, non-toxic, non-abusive spiritual community experience, if that's what you're seeking. The School of Bravery community represents a wide range of religious experiences and practice of spiritual beliefs. However...
The School of Bravery is 100% against the following:
- authoritarian groups & toxic leadership
- coercive control & undue influence
- manipulative marketing & indoctrination
- financial & emotional exploitation
- fundamental extremism of all kinds
Trauma hurts everyone.
The lasting effects of trauma from any of ^those^ are tragic and long-term, often permanent. All trauma is extremely costly, and not just those involved in the trauma. Trauma is costly, for everyone. The CDC reports that childhood trauma alone has an economic and social cost to families, communities, and society that totals hundreds of billions of dollars each year.
So, no we are not anti-religion. We are anti-oppression.
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Your business doesn't have to feel triggering, overwhelming, or scary.
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